Beate Absalon examines the role of sex in society in her book ‘Not Giving a Fuck’, questioning the necessity of pleasure in sexual experiences. She argues that many associate sex with obligation rather than fulfillment and highlights the restrictive nature of heteronormativity. Absalon believes the queer community’s emphasis on mindfulness offers a different perspective, though challenges remain. Through personal stories, she advocates for broadening the definitions of sexual expression and questions the societal pressures surrounding sexual performance, emphasizing the importance of allowing individuals to embrace both desire and lack thereof.